Recently, a man I work with had a minor heart attack. He said it was possibly the most pain he’d ever experienced in his life. He had to be taken to the hospital where they treated him. He was released a few days later and sent home with strict orders for diet and activity.
Then, four days later, he had another heart attack. This one was much, much worse. He said the pain he experienced in the first one was nothing in comparison to the pain of the second. He was again rushed to the hospital, and on more than one occasion the doctors thought they were going to lose him. He said that the worst part was that he was conscious through the whole process. He could hear the doctors talking, saying they were losing him. His life flashed before his eyes, and several times he thought that this next breath would be his last.
Thankfully, he survived, but at a great cost. He had to have several stints put in and had to undergo several other procedures over the next month and a half. His diet, activity level, and the rest of his entire lifestyle had to change dramatically. But that wasn’t the biggest change. The biggest change was his outlook on life.
I’ve never been on death’s doorstep, and quite frankly I’d rather not be there anytime soon. But this man came back from his experience completely changed. He wasn’t ever a really “rough” man, but his demeanor was much softer afterwards. He wasn’t a grudge-bearing man, but he certainly became a forgiver. In his own words, “There just isn’t too much worth getting upset about when you’re just glad to be alive.”
I’m a big advocate of learning from other people’s mistakes, but this one threw me for a loop. This man went through so much in such a short time and changed so dramatically that it is hard to ignore the significance. Not only has his life changed, but his interaction with other people has changed. His relationship with his wife has changed. His relationship with God has changed. He has changed.
We always hear things like “Don’t sweat the small stuff” but how many of us actually listen? We hear people say that family is more important, our children are more important, and that what really matters is the quality of your relationships. But how many people actually live that way? We tend to let our lives get cluttered by worrying about things that ultimately have no meaning.
Yes, my goal here is to make sure you have a good financial life. But don’t sacrifice your family for the sake of money. What’s the point of having all that money if you don’t have a life to spend it on? Being healthy is really important, but find a balance.
Don’t sacrifice one area of your life just to make another bigger. Instead, make deposits into all the areas of your life and watch them improve together. That way, you won’t miss out on the things that are really important, and you won’t go to your deathbed with regrets. Stop taking your life for granted and really enjoy it before it’s gone.
You see, I’m on this journey too. I’m learning these things before I pass them on to you. I want to make sure I love my wife and daughter more than money or honor. I want to make sure I’m forgiving and seeking forgiveness rather than holding grudges. I want to take these principles and store them deep in my heart so I can live life to the fullest under the shining light of God’s grace.
-Heath